Helping Others and Sucking at Taking Care of Me – Episode 32

A couple weeks ago, Phil posted a Facebook status update about taking care of yourself. How sometimes we can get caught up in helping others to succeed in their business or improve their lives and, in the process, end up neglecting ourselves. In today’s episode, Phil and I talk about these hard lessons we’ve learned in balancing self-care as people who often prioritize helping others first.


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Share Some Shut Up Love –>  We’re not sacrificing all for this somehow greater good that really doesn’t even exist. – @PhilGerb @_theshutupshow #shutupshow (click to tweet)

Defining Shut Up Moment:

Writing out our stories helps us not repeat them. Helps us to connect to others. Helps us make sense of wasteful time we think we have when in reality it’s not wasted. It may be misdirected, not perfect, but certainly not wasted. – Phil

If I didn’t have those stories to tell. If I didn’t have those obstacles to face. If I didn’t have those challenges to overcome. Who the heck would I be to sit here behind this microphone and tell you to shut up when I didn’t even shut up myself and take action? To learn all of those things that molded and shaped me into the person I am today. – Berni

Shut Up Tips:

I’m gonna take care of me first before I worry about anyone else. I have nothing left to give if my tank is empty. – Phil

I’m picking my 12 hours instead of letting them be picked for me. That’s success. – Phil

Self-care is also about prioritizing the people and things you love so you can have the flexibility and autonomy to say today I’m taking a break and I’m gonna help so and so. – Berni

Society is not looking for us to kill ourselves to contribute, not even a little bit. The reason we work is so we have the freedom to do what we want when we can. And the reality is to not accumulate more crap, but to have more time to do what’s really important. – Phil

Leaning into fear and embracing failure. Understanding that you’re not immune to bad things happening to you or making mistakes. That’s all essential and necessary because that is going to get you where you want to be in your future. – Berni

We make the best of the decisions we make. – Phil

Transition is about moving from where you are to where you wanna be, whatever that means to you. – Phil

Berni and Phil Recommend:

Berni’s blog post on Medium: 10 Things Every Solopreneur Should Do Before Quitting Your Day Job

Two tactical items for self-care:

  • Make water your friend. It has a calming effect and can channel creativity.
  • Be intentional about the choices you make. Then make the best of what comes your way.

Two mantras you can incorporate into your daily practice:

We can do no great things, only small things with great love. – Mother Teresa

Be more you. – Steve Farber

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