The Best Breakup That Ever Happened to Me (Shin Kicking Mondays)

I know what you may be thinking, “How the heck can I find a silver lining story when I didn’t win over the guy/gal I wanted to be with?” Sometimes it’s hard to imagine what the story of triumph might be when you’re fresh in the moment or just getting out of it. Having felt rejected, abandoned, deceived, and unloved, I know firsthand what it feels like to think you are not good enough and that timing is never on your side.

In this episode of Shin Kicking Mondays, I finally talk publicly about what really happened in my first ever psychotherapist visit more than six years ago. The day I thought I would never recover from a breakup with the guy I believed was “the one.” The same day I realized that losing him was the defining moment in my life when I discovered my dream job, which I’m living and breathing today.

Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing | Seriously Simple Selling.

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I did not get the man. But in the process of getting over him, I fell in love with making a positive impact in the world. @BerniXiong (click to tweet)


Transforming your tragedy, challenge or perceived deficiencies into a story of triumph, bravery and resilience:

  • Think about a time in your life when you had to look fear in the eye or hit rock bottom.
  • What did you do particularly well to get you through to the other side?
  • How did that experience shape who you are today?
  • Check out the first and original blog post I’ve ever written titled Finding the Silver Lining When He’s Not That Into You

Setting up your video/audio making studio on the cheap (shout out to Dave Conrey of The Fresh Rag Show for the tips):

  • Blue Icicle Preamp ($48) – Click here to buy on Amazon (affiliate link)
  • Audio-Technica Microphone ($68) – Click here to buy on Amazon (affiliate link)
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Selling your products or services online–it’s FREE and you don’t even need a web site!

  • Check out this FREE web training I created a few months ago showing you how to set up an online store in less than 10 minutes using Selz.


Shin Kicking Mondays (The Shut Up Show’s free weekly coaching series) will help you kick start the week with more confidence and a great mental attitude! You’ll be so inspired to jump out of bed and get shit done. By the week’s end, you’ll already be looking forward to next Monday.

Every Monday we deliver a swift kick to the shins with FREE COACHING to help you:

  • Do work you love while making an impact in the world.
  • Stand out and get noticed by like-minded and like-hearted peeps.
  • Attract more paying clients to help you build a steady income stream.