mike hrostoski

Our guest today was recommended by our friend and former guest Vasavi Kumar. This is the first time we’ve featured a Life Coach for Men, which is rare. Mike Hrostoski takes us through a raw discussion about the reasons he left his lucrative corporate career and how his travels as a digital nomad has led him to do the work he does today as The Men’s Coach. If you’ve ever doubted yourself or thought your idea was stupid, Mike will help you move forward and do it any way. You might author a book in one month or put on an event for 300 people even though you’ve never done either before, who knows?

 

Watch the show (uncensored & unedited)

Share Some Shut Up Love –> The more I share and speak my truth, the better results in life I get. – @Hrostoski on @_TheShutUpShow #shutupshow (click to tweet)

Fun Facts:

• Mike is The Men’s Coach, a life coach for men.
• Mike quit his corporate job after his mom passed away and began traveling and volunteering during all of 2012.
• Mike co-hosts a LIVE web show called The Raw Truth About Entrepreneurship with Jonathan Mead.
• Mike has been a digital nomad since February 2012, traveling and working across three continents, eight countries and dozens of cities.
• Mike recently self-published his first kindle book that he wrote in the entire month of August 2013.

Defining Shut Up Moment:

I’ve been a nomad for a year and nine months. Up until I was 30, I had a pretty conventional life. I worked in sales and marketing, got my MBA. I worked in human resources for a big Fortune 50 company and then my mom passed away. The most amazing people I’ve met are there doing their work because of a catalytic event or a trauma they have overcome. The reason they can coach people is because of all they’ve overcome. For me, it was because my mom passed away.

I sold everything I own. I left my corporate job. For all of 2012, I worked for free. I saved a lot of money. So I really started living life in HD. I pushed myself to do things that scared me a little bit. Like writing a book or doing speaking engagements or hosting an event. I’m doing my first retreat in January and a huge conference in April. I’ve never done any of these things. Like any entrepreneur, we’re making it up as we go and there’s no road map on how to do ABC. It’s about acting in the face of fear.

I’m not fearless. I don’t like the word fearless. I feel tension and fear all the time. But I move forward knowing whatever I’m afraid of–that’s my edge–that’s my next hurdle to jump over. I coach men and I chose this niche because I think it’s a market that’s under served. I learned pretty much everything from a book or mentors. I think there’s a lot of lies men are taught from the playground or from our dads. So a lot of my work is helping those guys drop those beliefs and I let them know they can cry and show emotion and it’s okay to ask for help. I feel very lucky that I have dozens of men in my life who are like my brothers. We talk about real deep stuff and I know a lot of guys don’t have that. My mission and purpose is to help men level up and give them the resources they need to have the lives of their dreams.

Shut Up Tips:

In the absence of any action, you’re afraid. But when you do it, it’s just not as scary as you thought it was. – Phil

The most amazing people I’ve met are there because of a catalytic event or a trauma they have overcome. – Mike

My voice has grown from my blog and from doing the work. – Mike

The more I share and speak my truth, the better results in life I get. The more powerful I feel. The deeper connection I can have in a partnership with a woman. – Mike

I was a really shy Asian nerd. Loves books. Scared of girls. I was a senior in high school and I couldn’t even look in a girl’s eyes. – Mike

So much of my work is on ways of being with women and appreciating beauty and speaking your truth. – Mike

We’re perfect as we are. – Phil

I’m an entrepreneur. Entrepreneurs solve problems. We create value by keeping our ears open and looking at market needs. We say, “That’s a problem. I’m going to solve it.” – Mike

If you can sell without fear, if it doesn’t matter what the outcome is, and you can detach from that outcome, then you can really be more fearless and focus on what you really want. – Phil

People try to skip levels. You level up one level at a time. If you jump levels, you don’t have the foundation you need to stay at that level. Eventually you’ll realize you’re way up and you look down and wonder how did I get here? – Phil

People don’t live the life of their dreams because they’re afraid of failure and “what will people think about me if I fail” or “I’m gonna look like an idiot.” – Mike

If you have that belief “I’m not __ enough,” it’s like walking around with a straight jacket on. – Mike

All of us have a tremendous body of work. – Mike

The beliefs are what hold our businesses and lives back. – Phil

A lot of people say time is your most valuable resource and I believe it’s energy. – Mike

I’m currently really playing big and pushing myself. I need people on my team who really push me instead of people thinking “Oh Mike, are you too good for me now?” – Mike

Mike Recommends:

In April 2014, Mike will gather with 300 high performing men in San Diego for a weekend of accelerated growth. Learn more about ConferenceForMen.com.

Check out the book Mike wrote in the month of August 2013 –> August: A True Story About Love, Sex, and Entrepreneurship

Find Mike:

Mike’s website and blog is at Hrostoski.com

Mike’s “Do What Energizes You, Not What Drains You” episode on YouTube

Mike’s LIVE web show with Jonathan Mead: The Raw Truth About Entrepreneurship