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Who Are You Showing Up to Be Today? (Shin Kicking Mondays)

July 24, 2014 By Berni

This episode is brought to you by our amazing partner for almost a year now, Selz.com, who has backed us up making selling online easy, sexy and fun even if you don’t have a web site yet!

Today on Shin Kicking Mondays we’re going to talk about a long overdue topic. Last week we talked about showing up to do good and hard work no matter how difficult the journey can be.

This week we cover something more important: Who are you showing up to be?

If you know you have a story or an important message to tell…you don’t quite know how to tell it…or you’re deathly afraid to share it…this episode was hand-crafted by me just for you.

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Be who you say you are. Do what you say you’ll do. You don’t want to be a BS brand, do you? @BerniXiong #shinkickingmon (click to tweet)

WHAT’S IN TODAY’S SHIN KICKING TOOLKIT?

Here are some things you can ask yourself to gain clarity about who you want to be when you show up:

Why did you get into this work to begin with?
Who were you trying to help?
What outcome will they achieve with my help?

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WATCH US LIVE EVERY MONDAY AT NOON (CENTRAL U.S. TIME)

Shin Kicking Mondays (The Shut Up Show’s free weekly coaching series) will help you kick start the week with more confidence and a great mental attitude! You’ll be so inspired to jump out of bed and get shit done. By the week’s end, you’ll already be looking forward to next Monday.

Every Monday we deliver a swift kick to the shins with FREE COACHING to help you:

Do work you love while making an impact in the world.
Stand out and get noticed by like-minded and like-hearted peeps.
Attract more paying clients to help you build a steady income stream.

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The Best Breakup That Ever Happened to Me (Shin Kicking Mondays)

May 23, 2014 By Berni

I know what you may be thinking, “How the heck can I find a silver lining story when I didn’t win over the guy/gal I wanted to be with?” Sometimes it’s hard to imagine what the story of triumph might be when you’re fresh in the moment or just getting out of it. Having felt rejected, abandoned, deceived, and unloved, I know firsthand what it feels like to think you are not good enough and that timing is never on your side.

In this episode of Shin Kicking Mondays, I finally talk publicly about what really happened in my first ever psychotherapist visit more than six years ago. The day I thought I would never recover from a breakup with the guy I believed was “the one.” The same day I realized that losing him was the defining moment in my life when I discovered my dream job, which I’m living and breathing today.

Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Selz.com | Seriously Simple Selling.

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I did not get the man. But in the process of getting over him, I fell in love with making a positive impact in the world. @BerniXiong (click to tweet)

WHAT’S IN TODAY’S SHIN KICKING TOOLKIT?

Transforming your tragedy, challenge or perceived deficiencies into a story of triumph, bravery and resilience:

Think about a time in your life when you had to look fear in the eye or hit rock bottom.
What did you do particularly well to get you through to the other side?
How did that experience shape who you are today?
Check out the first and original blog post I’ve ever written titled Finding the Silver Lining When He’s Not That Into You

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WATCH US LIVE EVERY MONDAY AT NOON (CENTRAL U.S. TIME)

Every Monday we deliver a swift kick to the shins with FREE COACHING to help you:

Do work you love while making an impact in the world.
Stand out and get noticed by like-minded and like-hearted peeps.
Attract more paying clients to help you build a steady income stream.

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Shin Kicking Mondays – FREE Weekly Coaching – Pilot Episode

April 23, 2014 By Berni

In this pilot episode of Shin Kicking Mondays, I talk about how being molested as a 5-year-old led me into cycles of depression and codependent relationships with men. And how my very first session with a psychotherapist at age 30 led me down the path towards pursuing my dream job and, ultimately, sparking the Brave Bear Revolution for entrepreneurs who want help kicking fear to the curb, shutting up and making shit happen.

Shin Kicking Mondays couldn’t be possible without the support of our amazing sponsor Selz.com–a company that makes selling simple and cares about helping you put good shit out into the world.

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Now that you know what you know, what are you going to do about it today? – @BerniXiong #shutupshow (click to tweet)

SHIN KICKING MONDAYS

Thank YOU for giving us the idea to launch this brand new sister series to The Shut Up Show!

Shin Kicking Mondays will help you kick start the week with more confidence and a great mental attitude! You’ll be so inspired to jump out of bed and get shit done. By the week’s end, you’ll already be looking forward to next Monday.

Join us LIVE every Monday at noon (Central Time), where we’ll deliver a swift kick to the shins with FREE COACHING to help you:

Do work you love while making an impact in the world.
Stand out and get noticed by like-minded and like-hearted peeps.
Attract more paying clients to help you build a steady income stream.

HOW COACHING SAVED MY LIFE

Back in 2008, I received my professional coaching training one month before I quit my fancy corporate sales job and started a life coaching practice.

Coaching helped me navigate the darkest of times when I was feeling depressed, hopeless and helpless, and nearly gave up the will to live. Coaching saved my life with mindset strategies and emotional tools to help me rise above paralyzing experiences like being in an abusive relationship, hospitalized and filing for bankruptcy.

Coaching helped me remove the barriers holding me back from living on my own terms. Since then, everything has changed for me. Especially within the past 12 months.

I had no idea whether I could be brave enough to talk about my fears every week. More than 100 episodes later, The Shut Up Show is alive and growing.

I had no idea whether I could afford to bring you a weekly web show and podcast every week. Six months later, Selz.com believed in us and backed this show.

I had no idea whether I could ever author the book I’ve been meaning to write since 2011. Three years later, the book chose me to write the entire first draft on a single Saturday afternoon in January 2014.

So I challenge you to answer this question: What is stopping you today?

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You Gotta Ship It to Sell It – Episode 83

January 17, 2014 By Berni

Today’s first backstage episode of the year is brought to you by our amazing sponsor, Selz. Thanks to Selz, we are able to join you up to three times a week doing what we all love… helping you shut up and make shit happen.

Inside today’s episode, Phil and I talk about how we have shipped things half-assed or stalled on shipping at all. We look inside why we do this as people who produce “things” and how we can shift our mindset from thinking we have to be perfect to believing we are good enough to put it out into the world at all.

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Share Some Shut Up Love –> Done is better than perfect. – @PhilGerb on @_TheShutUpShow #shutupshow (click to tweet)

Shut Up Tips:

Just shipped my first newsletter of the year. The first one in four months. I made a lot of excuses because I wanted it to be perfect. I made a lot of mistakes but we had a 40% open rate and 150 people responded. – Phil

Waiting versus being patient.. I don’t think they’re the same thing. I started writing a book in 2011 and when I was done I didn’t feel it was good enough. So I didn’t publish it. Although I was patient for the book and me to be ready for each other this year, I didn’t wait to write it. I ve been writing every day since 2011 and now the book is written. – Berni

Unless it’s a show stopper, I need to ship. – Phil

The goal is to get feedback. You’re gonna ship anyway but you can always make it better. – Phil

Another reason we don’t ship is because we’re hoarding it for ourselves when instead we should be having people iterate with us. – Berni

The goal is early stage feedback, not after it’s done. – Phil

I think I’m my market so I research myself and then I get upset because I don’t get good feedback. – Phil

Berni & Phil Recommend:

Thank you Selz.com for the amazing work you do… you make it seriously so simple to work with you and get selling in seconds.

Here’s my latest post on how (thanks to Selz) I was able sell a year-end deal even though my web site was down for 10 days: Who Needs a Web Site to Sell, Really?

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Hello 75 Episodes, Good Bye 2013 – Backstage with Berni & Phil – Episode 75

December 30, 2013 By Berni

Can you believe it?! The SHUT UP Show is now 75 episodes old!

This backstage episode is a lot longer than our usual show length because we wanted to pack it with a big punch. In this discussion, Phil and I recap highlights from episodes 50 through 74, which astounds us to this day that we have been able to bring on so many amazing guests. We’re approaching 100 episodes easily in less than 3 months… and we couldn’t have done this without you! Thank YOU #ShutUpShow community for continuing to love and support us and the show.

Huge shout out to Selz, our amazing sponsor for having our back so we can continue to bring our video show and podcast to you. If you haven’t already checked out Selz, you’re missing out. Not only do we encourage you to show love to the peeps who help us #GetSelling and #GetPaid, we want YOU to also try them on for size yourself. You will love how fast and easy you can start selling your products and services today!

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SHUT UP Tips (Highlights from 50 through 74):

It’s okay to share some Shut Up Love –>

Every single moment is a huge decision. You can dwell on the past, think about the future or take action now. – Justin Sandy (click to tweet)

Being an adult is not about being perfect. It’s about unlearning all of those things and discovering the world. @juliarosien (click to tweet)

People want to give you a chance, I promise you. – @FrankieMeeink (click to tweet)

Being rich is not what’s in my mind. What we’d love to do is give something back. – @IanCleary (click to tweet)

You started the business for a reason. What is that reason? – @KFOM (click to tweet)

There’s one thing you don’t want in life and that’s regrets. – @IAmJoelBrown (click to tweet)

I didn’t understand the big world out there, I was the Jane Goodall in a forest of college students. @TheRyanMcRae (click to tweet)

My gift is my past. – @latticeworkwlth on @_TheSHUTUPShow (click to tweet)

It’s like God had a quota on failures and I ran up the quota rather quickly. – @RajSetty @_TheSHUTUPShow (click to tweet)

Beliefs are the gateway to your heart space. – @hduckworth on @_TheSHUTUPShow (click to tweet)

The only way out is by taking action. Nothing ever gets better by sitting on your ass. @AskVasavi @_TheSHUTUPShow (click to tweet)

I can’t build a legacy, my son can be proud of, by not being 100% me. @Freshrag on @_TheShutUpShow (click to tweet)

The more I share and speak my truth, the better results in life I get. – @Hrostoski on @_TheShutUpShow (click to tweet)

Feel the fear and do it anyways. @NathanHChan (click to tweet)

Here’s my opportunity. If I don’t take it, I’m gonna regret it when I’m 70 years old with no teeth. @julieedmonson (click to tweet)

Thank you to our guests from episodes 50 through 74:

Justin Sandy – Retired NFL Player Justin Sandy on Becoming a Titan in Your Life and Business – Episode 51

Julia Rosien – Julia Rosien on Unlearning Perfect and Discovering Your World – Episode 52

Frank Meeink – Recovering Skinhead Frank Meeink On Transforming Fear Through Empathy – Episode 54

Ian Cleary – Being Laser-Focused and RazorSocial with Ian Cleary – Episode 55

Kevin Ferrasci O’ Malley – Kevin Ferrasci O’Malley on Succeeding as a Small Business Owner – Episode 57

Joel Brown – Addicted to Success and Committed to Achieving with Joel Brown – Episode 58

Ryan McRae – Preventing Every Day Mediocrity with Ryan McRae – Episode 60

Will Nelson – Will Nelson on Embracing Your Past as a Gift – Episode 61

Raj Setty – It’s Just Math: Extracting Lessons from Failure with Rajesh Setty – Episode 64

Holly Duckworth – Around the Horn with Holly Duckworth: Going From Banking to Baseball to Heart-Centered Leadership – Episode 65

Vasavi Kumar – Keeping It Real and Finding Your Freedom In Action with Vasavi Kumar – Episode 67

Dave Conrey – Dave Conrey’s No BS Approach to Building Community and Getting Creatively Published – Episode 68

Mike Hrostoski – Mike Hrostoski Speaks the Truth About Love, Sex, and Entrepreneurship – Episode 70

Nathan Chan – Starting Small, But Starting at All with Nathan Chan – Episode 71

Julie Edmonson – Transitioning from Dream Job to Healthy Business with Julie Edmonson – Episode 73

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