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The Best Breakup That Ever Happened to Me (Shin Kicking Mondays)

May 23, 2014 By Berni

I know what you may be thinking, “How the heck can I find a silver lining story when I didn’t win over the guy/gal I wanted to be with?” Sometimes it’s hard to imagine what the story of triumph might be when you’re fresh in the moment or just getting out of it. Having felt rejected, abandoned, deceived, and unloved, I know firsthand what it feels like to think you are not good enough and that timing is never on your side.

In this episode of Shin Kicking Mondays, I finally talk publicly about what really happened in my first ever psychotherapist visit more than six years ago. The day I thought I would never recover from a breakup with the guy I believed was “the one.” The same day I realized that losing him was the defining moment in my life when I discovered my dream job, which I’m living and breathing today.

Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Selz.com | Seriously Simple Selling.

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I did not get the man. But in the process of getting over him, I fell in love with making a positive impact in the world. @BerniXiong (click to tweet)

WHAT’S IN TODAY’S SHIN KICKING TOOLKIT?

Transforming your tragedy, challenge or perceived deficiencies into a story of triumph, bravery and resilience:

Think about a time in your life when you had to look fear in the eye or hit rock bottom.
What did you do particularly well to get you through to the other side?
How did that experience shape who you are today?
Check out the first and original blog post I’ve ever written titled Finding the Silver Lining When He’s Not That Into You

Setting up your video/audio making studio on the cheap (shout out to Dave Conrey of The Fresh Rag Show for the tips):

Blue Icicle Preamp ($48) – Click here to buy on Amazon (affiliate link)
Audio-Technica Microphone ($68) – Click here to buy on Amazon (affiliate link)
Lighting Umbrella Kit ($29) – Click here to buy on Amazon (affiliate link)

Selling your products or services online–it’s FREE and you don’t even need a web site!

Check out this FREE web training I created a few months ago showing you how to set up an online store in less than 10 minutes using Selz.

WATCH US LIVE EVERY MONDAY AT NOON (CENTRAL U.S. TIME)

Shin Kicking Mondays (The Shut Up Show’s free weekly coaching series) will help you kick start the week with more confidence and a great mental attitude! You’ll be so inspired to jump out of bed and get shit done. By the week’s end, you’ll already be looking forward to next Monday.

Every Monday we deliver a swift kick to the shins with FREE COACHING to help you:

Do work you love while making an impact in the world.
Stand out and get noticed by like-minded and like-hearted peeps.
Attract more paying clients to help you build a steady income stream.

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Why the Doctor Made Me Cry Today (Shin Kicking Mondays)

May 16, 2014 By Berni

In this episode of Shin Kicking Mondays, I share exactly what happened on Monday that made me cry at a trip to the doctor’s office. What started out as tears of sorrow quickly turned in to tears of gratitude. This is a very special episode for me because I get to share some truly amazing people with you. People who keep me inspired every single day to keep doing this shin kicking work.

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Show gratitude for the people you choose to surround yourself with. Without them, life would be less colorful. @BerniXiong #shinkickingmon (click to tweet)

WHAT’S IN TODAY’S SHIN KICKING TOOLKIT?

Huge thanks and shout-outs go to these people…I think of you often but at times may forget to show my gratitude for all the love and support you show me:

AJ Leon, Melissa Leon, and Jessie White for spearheading Good Misfit, a social philanthropic experiment to build a windmill in Africa:

– Check out PursuitOfEverything.com

Dawn Casey-Rowe for the hand-crafted coffee mug with Rumi’s quote:

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.

– Check out CafeCasey.com

Jon Wilkening for the “live fearless” postcard:

– Check out JonWilkening.com

Sarah Steenland for the #donkeys4life greeting card and other thinks donkey-related:

– Check out SarahSteeland.com

August Marie Ball for the beautiful necklace and continued words of inspiration. Here’s a throwback from our last New Year Eve’s together:

– Check out August Marie

WATCH US LIVE EVERY MONDAY AT NOON (CENTRAL U.S. TIME)

Every Monday we deliver a swift kick to the shins with FREE COACHING to help you:

Do work you love while making an impact in the world.
Stand out and get noticed by like-minded and like-hearted peeps.
Attract more paying clients to help you build a steady income stream.

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Stop Being Right and Take Some Damn Action (Shin Kicking Mondays)

May 11, 2014 By Berni

In this episode of Shin Kicking Mondays, I talk about letting go and creating space for success to enter your life.

Thank you Julie Sheranosher for writing in your question: “I think that what I struggle with most in my journey is how to let go and allow things to happen. I find myself constantly calculating, worrying and trying to find alternatives on every scenario I can possibly imagine and that doesn’t leave much room for growth, I find. So I wanted to ask, how does one let go and allow success into one’s life?”

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Even if it wasn’t the best decision, the fact that you took action at all is more important than being right. @BerniXiong #shinkickingmon (click to tweet)

WHAT’S IN TODAY’S SHIN KICKING TOOLKIT?

Redefine “success” (what does it look like, taste like, and most importantly feel like to you?)
Let go of people and things (eliminate activities and people that don’t serve your well-being, reduce things you do in excess, focus your time and energy on what truly matters to you)
Create space to receive (open your eyes and ears to the people and things you want to enter into your life, ask for help, accept help when it is offered to you, be who you want to attract)

Julie Sheranosher (creating time out of thin air at ImJulie.com)

The Year of the Brave Bear: How to Unleash Your Voice and Stand Out in the World (This is the book I’ve been meaning to write since 2011. Download an unabridged copy for free here.)

Jia Jiang (From Foe to Friend: Jia Jiang’s Love Story with Rejection – Episode 19)

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Every Monday we deliver a swift kick to the shins with FREE COACHING to help you:

Do work you love while making an impact in the world.
Stand out and get noticed by like-minded and like-hearted peeps.
Attract more paying clients to help you build a steady income stream.

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How to Refine the Story You Want to Tell (Shin Kicking Mondays)

May 2, 2014 By Berni

In this episode of Shin Kicking Mondays, I respond to a question sent in by Jon Wilkening.

Jon says, “I don’t know the main story that I want to tell with my online presence. I feel like I am trying to tell multiple stories right now resulting in none of them consistently being communicated. I feel the desire to relate my own personal journey to where I could no longer not be creative but I also need to tell the story of my art to be successful. I cant just throw my art into the world without a story…how did you learn to tell your story?”

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Get in the habit of writing even if you’re not a writer. It will help you refine the story you want to tell. @BerniXiong #shinkickingmon (click to tweet)

WHAT’S IN TODAY’S SHIN KICKING TOOLKIT?

750words.com (I used this tool when I was starting my daily practice of journaling and writing.)

The Year of the Brave Bear: How to Unleash Your Voice and Stand Out in the World (This is the book I’ve been meaning to write since 2011. Download an unabridged copy for free here.)

Susan Baroncini-Moe (My coach in 2013 who helped me with my new tagline.)

Jon Wilkening (Transforming the world around him into a hazy dream using a pinhole camera.)

Google forms (I use this to survey my audience for free.)

WATCH US LIVE EVERY MONDAY AT NOON (CENTRAL TIME):

Every Monday we deliver a swift kick to the shins with FREE COACHING to help you:

Do work you love while making an impact in the world.
Stand out and get noticed by like-minded and like-hearted peeps.
Attract more paying clients to help you build a steady income stream.

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Shin Kicking Mondays – FREE Weekly Coaching – Pilot Episode

April 23, 2014 By Berni

In this pilot episode of Shin Kicking Mondays, I talk about how being molested as a 5-year-old led me into cycles of depression and codependent relationships with men. And how my very first session with a psychotherapist at age 30 led me down the path towards pursuing my dream job and, ultimately, sparking the Brave Bear Revolution for entrepreneurs who want help kicking fear to the curb, shutting up and making shit happen.

Shin Kicking Mondays couldn’t be possible without the support of our amazing sponsor Selz.com–a company that makes selling simple and cares about helping you put good shit out into the world.

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Now that you know what you know, what are you going to do about it today? – @BerniXiong #shutupshow (click to tweet)

SHIN KICKING MONDAYS

Thank YOU for giving us the idea to launch this brand new sister series to The Shut Up Show!

Shin Kicking Mondays will help you kick start the week with more confidence and a great mental attitude! You’ll be so inspired to jump out of bed and get shit done. By the week’s end, you’ll already be looking forward to next Monday.

Join us LIVE every Monday at noon (Central Time), where we’ll deliver a swift kick to the shins with FREE COACHING to help you:

Do work you love while making an impact in the world.
Stand out and get noticed by like-minded and like-hearted peeps.
Attract more paying clients to help you build a steady income stream.

HOW COACHING SAVED MY LIFE

Back in 2008, I received my professional coaching training one month before I quit my fancy corporate sales job and started a life coaching practice.

Coaching helped me navigate the darkest of times when I was feeling depressed, hopeless and helpless, and nearly gave up the will to live. Coaching saved my life with mindset strategies and emotional tools to help me rise above paralyzing experiences like being in an abusive relationship, hospitalized and filing for bankruptcy.

Coaching helped me remove the barriers holding me back from living on my own terms. Since then, everything has changed for me. Especially within the past 12 months.

I had no idea whether I could be brave enough to talk about my fears every week. More than 100 episodes later, The Shut Up Show is alive and growing.

I had no idea whether I could afford to bring you a weekly web show and podcast every week. Six months later, Selz.com believed in us and backed this show.

I had no idea whether I could ever author the book I’ve been meaning to write since 2011. Three years later, the book chose me to write the entire first draft on a single Saturday afternoon in January 2014.

So I challenge you to answer this question: What is stopping you today?

BONUS SHIN KICKING FOR YOU OVERACHIEVERS: If you want help taking action right now…check out my video blog post on how to set up an online store in less than 10 minutes with Selz.com. It’s FREE!

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